Right now, you feel stuck…
Haunted by past mistakes
Worried that you’re not enough
Feeling pressure to be perfect
Unattractive, inside and out.
You worry that it’s too late to change.
I can relate.
It all started when I was little. I was a deeply intuitive child with a tender spirit. Careless or mean comments made me feel unworthy or unloved. Strict discipline led to good behavior and academic success but left a neglected heart. When I was maybe seven, the pediatrician mockingly said I was fat. While that may have been technically true, it was a cruel thing to say to a child and confirmed false beliefs that I was defective and unlovable. That I needed to try harder. . . that I could be loved only if I changed but not as I was.
Those false, limiting beliefs were reinforced by those around me, and I just accepted them as truth.
At home, I was forced to sit at the table until I finished my liver or (insert disgusting meal here). I was never good in gym; pull ups and push ups just weren’t my thing. I really had no friends among kids my own age, and I felt fat, even in elementary school. When I was 11ish, some magical combination of a growth spurt and deciding to only eat half a sandwich for lunch each day led to my slimming down. But kids were still cruel. I can still recall a boy, Angelo, saying the most hurtful and mean things to me from behind the stage curtain at a junior high talent show. He flung verbal arrows that pierced my soul and confirmed that I was ugly and unlovable. In high school, things got a bit better, and I got a boyfriend. I fit into a perfect size 7 and felt good. I still didn’t have what it took to make the cheerleading team or track team, but things were better and I fit in. When my boyfriend and I broke up in college, I stopped eating for a while from stress and lost a bunch of weight. Now people commented that I was too thin. Sophomore year and lots of beer and pizza changed that as I gained something like 45 lbs.
The cycle of yo-yo dieting continued for years as did the feelings of unworthiness and feeling unlovable. My weight went up and down ~ a lot~ but the hurts and false beliefs I carried with me. Wounded souls don’t easily mend.
When I got married and had babies, I finally discovered true love and acceptance with my husband and family. I LOVED my babies and kids, but unfortunately, with each pregnancy came another 15 pounds, weight that became increasingly difficult to shed. I still felt fat and ugly. Most of the time I loved spending time with my kids, and we had great fun hiking, playing, and taking fun field trips, but because my cup was empty and I kept pouring love into them, I felt worse and worse myself. You can’t pour from an empty cup, after all.
When my kids got older, I went back to school and completed masters and doctoral degrees and worked in a field where I was required to pour into and serve others. But because I hadn’t filled up my own cup, and nurtured myself, I was easily triggered, and when a coworker, boss, or church member would throw a barb at me, it would wound me deeply.
Although I kept these hurts to myself, I would wonder secretly if their words were true.
I didn’t have the armor of a strong defense since I had somehow internalized that self-care was selfish and that it would be wrong for me to put myself first. So I kept putting others first and kept going through the wash, rinse, repeat cycle of profound hope in others, betrayal, and deep hurts.
This cycle continued for many years and with it, an endless cycle of diets and emotional eating and drinking. Although I enjoyed my job working with kids and their parents at church, the common church doctrine that we are all bad, deserving of condemnation, did nothing to lift me up. My heart would want to sing and dance with joy, but that positive emotion would be smacked aside by well-meaning, pious individuals.
Until one day, I discovered a combination of techniques that completely disrupted this pattern and set me free. It was so simple, I almost couldn’t believe it was true! Although it was a bit unconventional, it proved quite powerful.
Imagine how great you’ll feel…
Waking up each morning, excited for what the day will hold
Knowing that you can conquer stress and avoid triggers
Confident that you won’t self-soothe with cookies, chips, or wine
Loving what you see and who you are when you look in the mirror. Every. Single. Time.
Saying goodby to crabby mom for good!
KNOWING that emotional eating is a thing of your past!
Feeling safe to be exactly who are you!
Boldly letting your heart sing!
Content and loving life!!
The techniques I learned were miraculous and magical—techniques that were so simple yet so profound.
Anyone can use them, and once you learn them, you’ve got skills for life!
I was able to ditch stress, end emotional eating, learn to love myself and confidently and intentionally put myself first, I had the power to nip negative and false limiting beliefs in the bud before they were able to get a stronghold in my heart and life.
It’s been life-changing and has enabled me to take care of myself and others so much better and just excel in all areas of my life. I’m confident and grounded in who I am. I’m no longer trying to find acceptance by pleasing others. I’ve lost weight and feel better than I have in years, too. It’s been magical!
Once I discovered this magical combination of skills, I knew I held the keys to help other moms find FREEDOM, ditch stress, lose weight, and just love life!
And I committed to share this method and my joy with others!
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Hi, I’,m Beth!
I love Jesus, puppies, and children. When I’m not behind my desk with a dog at my feet, you’ll find me hiking, kayaking, or enjoying long walks on the beach.
I've been helping moms like you for more than 10 years! I can show you how to conquer stress, end emotional eating and learn to confidently put yourself first, so you’ll feel your best, lose the mommy-weight for good, and go through each day with ease!
Because I’ve been where you are-wanting to please people, without healthy boundaries, exhausted, always putting others before myself-I know how discouraging that can feel. Like running on empty.
I also can promise you that learning to put yourself first is actually the least selfish thing you can do! How can you pour from an empty cup? I can show you simple techniques that you can use every day that will transform your life!
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