Do you ever wonder why you’re always stressed?
Why you snap at your kids when you just want to love them?
Why you binge or eat emotionally when you’re stressed? Only to feel ashamed and guilty afterwards?
Do you always seem to encounter roadblocks in your personal or professional life?
You might keep it together on the outside, but inside you feel ugly and unworthy. You wonder where it all came from and if you’re just doomed to live with these feelings forever.
If any of this resonates with you, you may be suffering from: REAR VIEW MIRROR SYNDROME.
You know that saying, “Objects in your rear view mirror are closer than they appear?” Well, traumas and perceived traumas from our pasts can follow us around, always within view and constantly affecting our moods, eating, relationships, jobs -- everything. Both big and little things that happened to us as children or teens have a way of growing and becoming huge mental monsters that keep us from reaching our full potential.
I can relate...
It’s hard to pinpoint when it all started for me.
Maybe when the pediatrician told me I was fat. . . .
Perhaps it was when my parents mistook my trailblazer personality as a curse and liability rather than as the amazing gift I now know it is. . . .
Maybe it was the betrayal when my sister blamed me for something she had done and watched as I got a spanking from my parents in spite of my protests of innocence.
It might have been when a boy in 8th grade cruelly whispered comments to me from behind the stage curtain at a talent show that I was SO ugly and that no one could ever love me.
Or when a mall security guard wrongly thought I had shop-lifted and called the police.
Or when the principal called me into his office, yelled at me, and told me I would be kicked out of school because I had been faking my address (he clearly didn’t know the difference between a mailing and physical address).
Maybe when someone I trusted had a drunk and naked friend come and threaten to assault me (I successfully ran quickly away!).
All I know is that feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, unlovableness, and shame followed me to high school, to college, and adulthood. I became a people pleaser, always trying to prove myself, trying to win affection and approval. But like most people with Rear View Mirror syndrome, it was an exercise in futility. I always seemed to wind up in situations where these feelings of rejection and unworthiness were reinforced. It became an endless cycle of hope, frustration, rejection, and reinforcement of my limiting beliefs.
Professionally, I stayed in bad job situations way too long---always looking to prove my loyalty while hoping things would improve-trying to earn love and respect and acknowledgement from others that I was indeed worthy, talented, and lovable.
Personally, I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong and why others seemed hell bent on keeping me in my place. I would rev up with coffee every morning, relax with wine at night, and perhaps comfort myself with donuts during the day or Ben and Jerry’s (Heath Bar Crunch) in the evening--my two fave comfort foods!
But no amount of food or drink could give me the affirmation that I needed, so my traumatic memories remained firmly in place, and the cycle continued.
Magic can happen…
If magic can happen for me, it can happen for you!
I know how it feels to think that you’re destined to never succeed, never find love, never feel thin, never be good enough. I’ve also firmly deposited these LIES so far in the past that they no longer show up in my rear view mirror or affect me today….and it all happened much quicker than I ever could have imagined.
I found a unique combination of techniques that completely vanquished the demons that had, for years, prevented my true light from shining through. In a very short period of time, I was able to love myself and confidently love my being, my strengths and weaknesses, and my purpose---and not be crippled by what others thought of me.
I went from people-pleasing to owning my essence and being content with who I was.
I moved from a fearful place of insecurity with no boundaries to confidently putting myself first with firm boundaries in place.
I felt free to love myself and even freer to show God’s love to others.
I was able to separate emotions from food and not binge or stress eat.
I started new routines, dropped fat and I feel great!
I stopped yelling at my kids.
My relationships with others improved.
I got clear on the things that were most important to me.
I was able to leave a crappy job that was sucking the life out of me and pursue my purpose work instead.
My passion and purpose is to serve other women and to show you that it IS possible to heal fully and completely from past traumas.
It’s possible to put them SO FAR BEHIND YOU that you can’t even see them in the rear view mirror, they’re that gone!!!!
And it doesn’t take years on a therapist’s couch! I love my life, and I love my work! And I want to help you feel this freedom too! I can show you how to eliminate both big and small traumas quickly and permanently so that you are free to be you, to love life, love your kids, lose weight, and thrive!
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Hi, I’,m Beth!
I love Jesus, puppies, and children. When I’m not behind my desk with a dog at my feet, you’ll find me hiking, kayaking, or enjoying long walks on the beach.
I've been helping moms like you for more than 10 years! I can show you how to conquer stress, end emotional eating and learn to confidently put yourself first, so you’ll feel your best, lose the mommy-weight for good, and go through each day with ease!
Because I’ve been where you are-wanting to please people, without healthy boundaries, exhausted, always putting others before myself-I know how discouraging that can feel. Like running on empty.
I also can promise you that learning to put yourself first is actually the least selfish thing you can do! How can you pour from an empty cup? I can show you simple techniques that you can use every day that will transform your life!
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Happy & Healthy 4 Life Course
Do you struggle with mom-stress or emotional eating? Would you love to be able to manage stress without yelling or reaching for the cookie jar or bottle of wine? This six week course can change the way you respond to life’s challenges, help you heal from past traumas, and teach you simple, yet profound, techniques to completely transform your outlook on life! Includes twice monthly group coaching calls for added support.
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