How to Change Your Life for the Best!
Have you heard of the Rachel Hollis book, Girl, Wash Your Face? I gave it to my daughter for Christmas. She zipped through it and passed it on to me to read. I was really pleasantly surprised by how much overlap there was between the principles she teaches and those I teach. I figure I must be doing something right since this famous, cool lifestyle blogger is teaching the same stuff, right?
One quote really resonated with me since it’s something I teach to my coaching clients: “Recognizing the lies we’ve come to accept about ourselves is the key to growing into a better version of ourselves. If we can identify the core of our struggles while simultaneously understanding that we are truly in control of conquering them, then we can utterly change our trajectory.”
The lies we’ve accepted about ourselves. . . hmmm. Do you ever find yourself accepting limitations about yourself simply because that’s what you’ve always believed? I’m too fat. I’m lazy. I’m ugly. I'll never get thin. I’m just not cut out to be a calm mom. Stress and anxiety run in my family. I’ll never succeed/stop yelling/get thin. I always mess up. I just CAN’T. I’m just not worth it. (Some sense of unworthiness lies at the core of almost all limiting beliefs.)
Do you ever find yourself projecting these same type of false beliefs on your children? He’s just too hyper. He always lies. She’ll never amount to anything. She just doesn’t have what it takes to ________. He’s fat. She’s lazy. She’ll never get along with her siblings. He’ll never sleep through the night. She always ruins everything. Do any of these sound familiar as well?
The WHY behind the lies we accept as truth: Up until the age of six or seven, we all are like little sponges, absorbing details and “facts” about life, ourselves, and the world without the ability to analyze them critically. We may yell at our child (or our mom might have yelled at us) and say something unkind simply because we are having a bad day. But little hearts and minds take this type of criticism and often absorb and file it in a way it was not intended, and then it always lurks in our subconscious mind, driving the way that we view ourselves and our worth, and negatively affecting the way we relate to others and navigate through life.
Steps to Overcome These Beliefs and Reclaim our Power:
1. Watch the words that come out of our mouths. The Bible says that “Life and death are in the power of the tongue” and that we can both bless and curse with our words. For real. Things that we say and put out there in the universe have a way of coming to find us, whether we ae saying something negative about ourselves or our children. Words carry great power. Use them wisely.
2. Start a gratitude journal. Each day write down three or five positive attributes that we or our kids possess or three things you are thankful for. It makes a difference, and this is an important step in countering any negative beliefs that our minds default to.
3. Trust that every day is a do-over, and be so, so grateful for that. God’s mercies are new every morning. Every day that we are here on earth and living and breathing, we have a fresh start. In my book, that gets a high five!!!
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Hi, I'm Beth. I help busy moms ditch overwhelm and frustration and conquer emotional eating, so they are happier and yell less, and feel great!