Beth’s story revised.
Do you ever wonder why you’re always stressed?
Why you snap at your kids when you just want to love them?
Why you binge or eat emotionally when you’re stressed? Only to feel ashamed and guilty afterwards?
Do you always seem to encounter roadblocks in your personal or professional life?
You might seem to have it mostly together on the outside but inside you feel ugly and unworthy. You wonder where it all came from and if you’re just doomed to live with these feelings forever.
You may be suffering from: REAR VIEW MIRROR SYNDROME.
You know that saying, “Objects in your rear view mirror are closer than they appear?” Well, traumas and perceived traumas from our pasts can follow us around, always within view and constantly affecting our moods, eating, relationships, jobs -- everything. Both big and little things that happened to us as children or teens have a way of growing and becoming huge mental monsters that keep us from reaching our full potential.
But it doesn’t need to be that way. I’ve been there, I know how it feels to think that you’re destined to never succeed, never find love, never feel thin, never be good enough.
I’ve also firmly deposited these LIES so far in the past that they no longer show up in my rear view mirror or affect me today….and it all happened much quicker than I ever could have imagined.
It’s hard to pinpoint when it all started.
*Maybe when the pediatrician told me I was fat. . . .
*Perhaps it was when my parents mistook my exuberant trailblazer personality as a curse and liability rather than as the amazing gift I now know it is. . . .
* Maybe it was the betrayal when my sister blamed me for something she had done and watched as I got a spanking from my parents in spite of my protests of innocence.
* It might have been when a boy in 8th grade cruelly whispered comments to me from behind the stage curtain at a talent show that I was SO ugly and that no one could ever love me.
*Or when a mall security guard wrongly thought I had shop-lifted and called the police.
*Or when the principal called me into his office, yelled at me, and told me I would be kicked out of school because I had been faking my address (he clearly didn’t know the difference between a mailing and physical address).
All I know is that feelings of insecurity, unworthiness, unlovableness, and shame followed me to high school, to college, and adulthood. I became a people pleaser, always trying to prove myself, trying to win affection and approval. But like most people with Rear view mirror syndrome, it was an exercise in futility. I always seemed to wind up in situations where these feelings of rejection and unworthiness were reinforced. It became an endless cycle of hope, frustration, rejection, and reinforcement of my limiting beliefs.
Professionally, I stayed in bad job situations way too long---always looking to prove my loyalty while hoping things would improve-trying to earn love and respect and acknowledgement from others that I was indeed worthy, talented, and lovable.
Personally, I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong and why others seemed hell bent on keeping me in my place. I would rev up with coffee every morning, relax with wine at night, and perhaps comfort myself with donuts during the day or Ben and Jerry’s (Heath Bar Crunch) in the evening--my two fave comfort foods!
But no amount of food or drink could give me the affirmation that I needed, so my traumatic memories remained firmly in place, and the cycle continued.
And then, magic happened. ;o) I found a unique combination of techniques that completely vanquished the demons that had, for years, prevented my true light from shining through. In a very short period of time, I was able to love myself and confidently love my being, my strengths and weaknesses, and my purpose---and not be crippled by what others thought of me.
*I went from people pleasing to owning my essence and being content with who I was.
*I moved from a fearful place of insecurity with no boundaries to confidently putting myself first with firm boundaries in place.
*I felt free to love myself and even freer to show God’s love to others.
*I was able to separate emotions from food and not binge or stress eat.
*I started new routines, dropped fat and I feel great!
*I stopped yelling at my kids.
* My relationships with others improved.
*I got clear on the things that were most important to me.
*I was able to leave a crappy job that was sucking the life out of me and pursue my purpose work instead.
My passion and purpose is to serve other women and to show you that it IS possible to get rid of past trauma memo. It’s possible to put them SO FAR BEHIND YOU that you can’t even see them in the rear view mirror, they’re that gone!!!! And it doesn’t take years on a therapist’s couch! I love my life, and I love my work!
And I want to help you feel this freedom too!
I can show you how to eliminate both big and small traumas quickly and permanently so that you are free to be you, to love life, love your kids, lose weight, and thrive!